Yesterday, serial rabble-rouser (and we mean this in a totally good way) Yomi @Akintonmide asked a question that has generated tons of conversations, flipped the table on women who are usually the passive lovers and amplified the ‘confusion’ many men face since sex and CONSENT got – for lack of better words, ‘redefined’.
Dear ladies, how do you initiate sex? Especially with someone who is not your boyfriend?
We have curated the responses, and they are very eye-opening. Read them all, then read the last entry. Maybe it’ll explain why it is more difficult for women to initiate sex.
@akintonmide Tell him straight up.. I am horny.. Can we have sex? (I hardly do this though )
@akintonmide Well, i feel acting the part (send nudes, tease him etc would be the best way especially if he's not your boyfriend.
@akintonmide 'I wanna do real bad things with you'
@akintonmide "Do you want to have sex?" Or some variation. I engage people how I want to be engaged. I don't want to be touched without permission…
@akintonmide "I want to have sex with you." If I am not in the mood to be dirty.
@akintonmide Sexting, perhaps.
@akintonmide Besides the regular hold his hand and gum body till he kisses you, here are a few others:
"Wanna doweet? ?"
"??? + ???= ?????"
@akintonmide Tell him you have no panties on. Sit on the table facing him, slowly raise your skirt while maintaining eye contact to give him a good view.
@akintonmide "I like you and I'll like to have sex with you, do you wanna have sex with me"
@akintonmide Talk about general stuff and I'll tell him I miss him and by that he knows what I mean.
@akintonmide A kiss is a always the best way to start in my opinion. Kissing leads to a lot of things.
@akintonmide Tell him I want to have sex while I'm making out with him.
@akintonmide Honestly? There's only two ways it can go, either I make clear, straightforward advances, like kissing you or something then escalate..
@akintonmide normally, relations are planned and agreed upon together. so in person,just go like "so you gon pipe me down like you said or nah"
@akintonmide Share Nudes,get a nice undies,tak a photo nd show him, he will surely say he would lov2see dat on u den ask him2com ov4 or u ov4…Dazall ??
@akintonmide Daddy, i want some candy?. We both know what candy represents. Likewise, he'd say "daddy's got some candy for you". ??
This sounds stupid ik
@akintonmide I would flirt with him via chat… or phone call. His response will determine if we take it a step further or end it immediately.
@akintonmide I usually just flat out say I'd like to have sex. I don't think I could be any clearer if I tried.
@akintonmide I get to touch him and allow him touch me. Sometimes I claim my foot aches to get him touch my leg.