Yesterday, serial rabble-rouser (and we mean this in a totally good way) Yomi @Akintonmide asked a question that has generated tons of conversations, flipped the table on women who are usually the passive lovers and amplified the ‘confusion’ many men face since sex and CONSENT got – for lack of better words, ‘redefined’.
Dear ladies, how do you initiate sex? Especially with someone who is not your boyfriend?
— Alhaji Ògògó 🖤 (@akintonmide) April 17, 2017
We have curated the responses, and they are very eye-opening. Read them all, then read the last entry. Maybe it’ll explain why it is more difficult for women to initiate sex.
Enjoy, share.
https://twitter.com/mz_atm01/status/854057951799238661
Tell him straight up.. I am horny.. Can we have sex? (I hardly do this though )
— ♥africana♥ (@mzz_faithy) April 17, 2017
https://twitter.com/niccuress/status/854219239384911872
@EmiNiTybaba there's something I want to show u. The tone and gesture indicates what I want to show him. There u have it.
— x (@MissTemie) April 17, 2017
https://twitter.com/TheOllieMead/status/854101707483226117
https://twitter.com/Chidinma__n/status/854027232678957056
"Do you want to have sex?" Or some variation. I engage people how I want to be engaged. I don't want to be touched without permission…
— Carmen Mays, MPA (@CarmenMaysMPA) April 17, 2017
"I want to have sex with you." If I am not in the mood to be dirty.
— I'm a little teapot (@JeSuisNkem) April 17, 2017
https://twitter.com/TosinAdeoye10/status/854027147702358016
Besides the regular hold his hand and gum body till he kisses you, here are a few others:
"Wanna doweet? 😏"
"👨🏽💼 + 👩🏽💼= 👉🏾👌🏾?"
— Her Fokken Majesty 🥰👑 (@cremechic11) April 17, 2017
https://twitter.com/GirlNextFlat/status/854046929805877248
@papi_sparrow all I have to do is show up looking 🔥🔥🔥
— House_of_Peace (@Paix_Stores) April 17, 2017
"I like you and I'll like to have sex with you, do you wanna have sex with me"
— oluwareallytobiloba (@kmzss) April 17, 2017
https://twitter.com/taido88/status/854076684244529153
https://twitter.com/doraayobami/status/854235144357543937
https://twitter.com/TobiAnnam/status/854124435833593860
Honestly? There's only two ways it can go, either I make clear, straightforward advances, like kissing you or something then escalate..
— dunns (@DunsDoesitAll) April 18, 2017
https://twitter.com/Sayywarr/status/854233430246248449
https://twitter.com/Iamsandramonday/status/854233064410685440
Daddy, i want some candy😂. We both know what candy represents. Likewise, he'd say "daddy's got some candy for you". 😂😂
This sounds stupid ik— ProJuice Bar (@Projuice_NG) April 17, 2017
I would flirt with him via chat… or phone call. His response will determine if we take it a step further or end it immediately.
— Sue 👸 (@SueKraz) April 17, 2017
I usually just flat out say I'd like to have sex. I don't think I could be any clearer if I tried.
— Professional Bad Bitch (@Cuntosaur) April 17, 2017
I get to touch him and allow him touch me. Sometimes I claim my foot aches to get him touch my leg.
— Nurse AMARACHUKWU (@Aunty_Amara) April 18, 2017
The responses are endless. Check @akintonmide’s TL for more. And, read this perspective by @Chydee.
Fam, I see what you're trying to do, and while it's quite interesting/revealing, I must point out a few things. Wish there was a shorter way pic.twitter.com/wkJQZNUhkm
— Chidi Okereke (@Chydee) April 18, 2017